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Together Spaces For A Common Purpose


This year my old school Cornerstone Leadership Academy celebrates 20 years and many know I have been involved in this work for as long as I can remember. My reflections therefore take me to the early years when back John Riordan was headmaster. As headmaster he was strict, kind and loving. John gave his first-born son the middle name “Kutesa” this is a Luganda (or better still Bantu) word to, “to negotiate”, to talk together.

John was headmaster of Cornerstone Leadership Academy boys at a very formative stage when the school was struggling to find its identity. The proprietors who included Tim, Michael and John sought to build a different kind of school. A school with no rules. Where students are guided by principles. To date this is true. In many ways this was a blend blend of cultures that the American friends wanted where freedom and order would meet.

Negotiations was therefore inevitable. It was critical that the talk was walked. That the student new they could push the line – He had to sit with the students for many hours negotiating this or the other cause of action. He had to do it over again with teachers, and non-teaching staff. If one or two took offence with his cause of action, John would negotiate. He would always adjust his position and give a very honest apology if there was need. As a result only one of the students then was sent off we know he has crossed the line long ago. But the spirit to negotiate did not stop even in sending off this student. It was then no surprise that he called his son this name ‘Kutesa’ although by then we took it as a joke.

Today we need a critical mass of people that see things this way. A critical mass or people that are willing to lay bare to create things new. We leave in a world of interest and not principles. By all standards John was the most principled person I have known.

How critical is our need for create bridges in our corridors of powers that can create this culture of negotiation other then the arrogance of power or pride. To developing and maintaining “together spaces” where all ideas are debated and appreciated for our families, work places and Country.

Together spaces - call them fellowships, board meetings, retreats, cabinet meeting were people do not come with positions but with possibilities, where we do not look for oppositions but options it is here were we can blossom. I like to refer to this as “excuses to get together”. Were we get together to be with one another.

In taking these spaces seriously, we believe that we can then begin to feel, see, experience one another in ways we would not normally. May be then we can be different, inspirational, human.

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